Taking a class on Culture of Honor, I started to ask where does honor start? I believe it starts in the home. Parents are to teach their children to honor, obey and respect others. That is the Fifth Commandment from God and He gave it to the children of Israel at Mount Sinai. It states: Honor your father and mother, that your days maybe long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. Exodus 20:12. It is the first commandment with a promise attached with it. This commandment is also restated in. Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”
As a pre-teen I had to take a class for instruction for First Communion. It was called catechism. Definition of catechism: a summary of the principles of Christian religion in the form of questions and answers, used for the instruction of Christians. The class consisted of going through a book called “An Explanation of the Catechism,” with a teaching from the pastor. The book consisted of the 10 commandments and the meaning of each one plus other Biblical principles with a definition attached to it. This is where I learned about the Fifth Commandment, and what was the Biblical reasoning to honor, to be obedient and to respect others along with learning from my parents.
When learning the 5th Commandment it was not only the commandment we learned but also the question that we’re asked “What does this commandment mean?” It stated: We should fear and love God so that we do not despise our parents, nor provoke them to anger, but honor serve, obey, love and esteem them. There were also other questions that were asked, Whom besides parents are you to honor? What is meant by the promise added to this commandment? Special blessings rests upon all obedient children, and every nation that honors parents and superiors. God placed within the Fifth Commandment His revealed instruction that stable families make strong nations. When all children honor and obey parental authority, incredible blessings result, including peace, wealth and health. God warns us: Destroy the family unit through dishonor and disobedience, and our nations will suffer the miseries of crime, violence, war and eventual destruction! In Proverbs 22:6 states: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Here is something to consider when it comes to honor and respect that I found on a Biblical parenting web site that states: Honor is different. It comes when you recognize a person’s worth or value. Respect focuses on behavior, doing the appropriate thing, whereas honor comes from the heart. Respect acknowledges a person’s position, while honor attaches worth to that person. Respect teaches manners and proper behavior in the presence of others. Honor teaches something deeper, an appreciation of that person. Respect can become an outward technique to make a family look good to others, but honor builds the hidden bonds that provide great strength and long-lasting unity. It’s one thing to obey the crossing guard out of respect for his position. It’s yet another to show honor to him because you know him as a friend.
When you take a look at the world today you do not have to look far to see that honor and respect and being obedient are lacking. Many children don’t respect their parents, teachers, each other, or people in authority because they were not taught in the home. What about the parents, are they not honoring or respecting each other? Do they show honor or respect to others, their bosses at their place of employment, people in authority, such as police officers? Are they showing honor and respect for government officials? We as parents cannot afford to forget that what we display reflects on our children and other around us.
There is good in every child. After all, they were created in His image and it is our responsibility to train and bring out these qualities of honor, respect and obedience in the children that He gave us.
Prayer/Altar Team Ministry Leader