Recently at the church I call home, relationships (specifically marriages) have come under a serious attack; and it appears to be growing more intense. The need for inner/spiritual healing and personal growth is desperately needed to win this battle.
I have been married to my wife Shelly now for 15 years, and I can say with confidence that there are spiritual forces at work that want to destroy what we have fought for. We both come from dysfunctional homes in which our families were in survival mode, just trying to keep their heads above water in every way, perpetuating the dysfunctional curse so to speak. We have all heard the saying that seems to hold true – you live what you learn. The examples we observed growing up became the same ways we dealt with relationships and challenges in our lives.
As we grew we repeated the same mistakes of our parents. Just a clarification – this is not a parent bashing session, we both love our parents and understand they were living what they learned as well. The one thing that has made every difference in our relationship is Jesus. Shelly and I can both say that if it were not for Him we would most likely be divorced or even worse. When the baggage we brought into our marriage from hurts from past experiences and the lack of knowledge regarding healthy relationships started to get unpacked it was very challenging and painful for us both. Fortunately, we had people around us that loved us enough to encourage us to go after healing, restoration, and education. It took plowing the hard ground of what we knew to receive the new seeds that would revitalize the areas in our lives that seemed to be on life support.
One area was in relationships. When we are in survival/self preservation mode we are mostly concerned about us. The walls are high and guarded because we have embraced a powerless mindset in which we subject ourselves to thinking we have to be in complete control of our environment including the people closest to us so we will not be hurt. Living under the premise of this reactionary response only reinforces the dysfunction. Through healing/deliverance ministry and education we have learned that being proactive and embracing the revelation that our Father has created us to be powerful. Timothy tells us in 2 Tim. 1:7 “for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”
Bottom line is God has a plan for us to thrive on this side of Heaven by learning and applying Biblical truth that will create the atmosphere of Heaven as we realize it is already inside of us waiting to be released. Think of it as a key that unlocks a treasure. You need to possess the correct key to insert in order for the tumblers to be moved once the key is turned to unlock what’s inside. Jesus is that key and he uses people to achieve this in our lives! If you are struggling with relationships and specifically marriage, please seek help and do not let the enemy continue this assault.
May the God of your hope so fill you with all joy and peace in believing [through the experience of your faith] that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound and be overflowing (bubbling over) with hope.
This Hope is real and can become a reality in your life! As Shelly and I began to grow and change we realized that God was helping us ‘Turn the Titanic around’ with our generations!
I pray that our eyes would be completely opened and the veil of deception would be torn so we could clearly see and hear how our Father truly cares about these challenges and His plan for redeeming and healing our relationships would take precedence in our hearts and that we would seek this freedom that He made available to us through Jesus.